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Your mind does interesting mathematics as soon as you grow up. I think about how fast it flew in the last twenty years. Before my 40th birthday last year, I kept calculating:
If the next twenty years go fast as the final, I am already sixty – which means that I am basically eighty already.
Time x speed = life
I felt that the life-shaped cardboard cutout of the new Millennial Midlife Crisis.
For my terror, I continued to write through my disorientation. I felt as if a woman walked on the plank. Everyone told me that life was just starting, but I could not feel that it was slipping through my fingers every day – and I was powerless to stop it.
As the feeling of my self -hearted erupted around me, I saw that lie came into the focus:
We were told that whatever we could and whatever we wanted.
But the options are endless, and the time is limited.
It will never adequately add adequately.
What my mathematics told about myself, and facing the truth of time and speed, I saw my crisis telling me how I want to spend the rest of my life. So I put my elder girl on the pants, turning to the secrets that I had neatly tucking under my pillow at night, and let them go to light.
When a new truth emerged to change lies:
You have everything you need within you.
You are complete. you are enough.
I was not in disappointment over the decline in ambiguity. I pity an experience, which I had denied myself. Life was not about surviving and becoming. It was about realizing the whole and human and making a place for happiness, desire, happiness, joy, relationship, love and surprise.
Life was just starting – and I was learning to slow down and enjoy it.
Looking for slowness when life is speeded
Between this call for slowness, my life is getting faster. There will never be a busy weather of life compared to this one. My children are blooming in themselves, and with it are friends, hobbies, sports, and memories as a family. Who is stepping into a season of his career, where he wants to test his boundaries, grows in himself, and sees what is possible when he taps into his talent.
And me. Today I find myself flowing with energy to put myself into the world.
What does someone do when the fullness of life threatens to overcome the ability to overcome the perfection of life?
I am progressing to slow down daily, even when everything is moving around me. I have a short start with the shortest adjustment. Today, I am writing about that I mean a lot to me and how I am practicing lethargy in this busy season of life.
Why slowly to me
I am tired It was one of the big secrets I had tucking under my pillow. Life is busy and I no longer have the energy to puff myself and cheerleed. However, when I need to relax, it is slow to notice.
The feeling of bone being tired and a renewed purpose in life is attractive. It is like learning to subdue a new kind of animal, a one that responds to softness rather than domining, alpha. Life is busy, fulfilling things, and bliss matters. So what does the balance look like? How is it possible to slow even more in the busy season of life?
I do not have an ideal system. But I am not ready to go back to feel a broad feeling of “keeping up” or deficiency. Instead, I have a value-based approach, the desire to practice these habits, and forgiveness for myself. because I’m tired. And I am alive.
How to slow down: 7 ways i am slowing down in the busy season of life
1. Tune in physical signals.
When I am running through life, I have seen that my speed is reflected through physical signs in my body. Some examples include:
- A tribulation jaw
- Small, shallow breaths and found to be unnatural to breathe deeply
- When I am driving, a tight grip on the wheel
- Shoulder shoulder while sitting shoulder
- Clumulate and leave things
In practicing lethargy, the most important thing for me is to notice these physical reactions and slowly redirect. I open my jaw, take some slow, deep breaths, loosen my grip on the wheel, and comfortably sit straight with shoulders. Keep in mind that your physical reactions for busyness can look different from me. What they are for you and gradually start redirecting them.
2. Monotask.
My whole life, I have gone to multitasks. Last month at a point, I was making Flan, writing an invitation, and text at the same time. When I am running through life and doing many things at once, I feel more stressed and have more likely to make mistakes.
Now, when I notice myself on multitasking, I try to redirect. I stop, choose one thing to focus, and go to the next thing once, once I work with it.
3. Reduce my expectations.
Even as I have slowed down a priority, I have still felt that I should be able to fulfill the same expectations as I was running through life. When I think logically about it, I know it is impossible.
I have not yet to correct the art of establishing expectations, but I am trying to be more honest with myself. I am trying to communicate what is possible with people in my life. When I don’t do everything, I am trying not to stress about it. Because most of the time, if I am completely honest, I think the pressure can wait to get the goods. Most of the time, it can wait.
As I recently wrote in a house call post, “When I can’t run through everything, I have to reduce, and reduce me to know what I have to know what is important.” This takes me to my next point:
4. Focus on what is most important.
There are still things that need to be done every day, whether for my work or personal life. When I feel overwhelmed, I always have a tendency to lax, which only stresses and run away. I am doing what I can do to change this trend. Instead of avoiding this, I am learning to sit with impulse and relaxation and discomfort of hard work.
When I feel overwhelmed, it helps me to complete a small, easy task first. This small achievement slightly promotes me, ignite the speed, and makes me feel able to do something else. Then I will proceed to a big, high-primary work and will give myself enough time to complete it (as much as I think I will need). Instead of avoiding myself completely, what is important, by giving time and space to complete it, I am careing about my current and future myself.
5. Remove the filler.
I am able to slow down in my everyday life when I have more time. Reducing the amount of time I am spending on distractions – such as responding to every text message and scrolling on my phone – with a slow pace of living.
I have also become ruthless by myself what I really enjoy consumption. I would choose to sit quietly instead of listening to podcast. I have seen that most of the TV shows on Netflix are not worth time.
But it’s about what you want. No one can tell you what you like.
So be selective about what you entertain with you. If the reality TV is to reinstall, give it priority. If it looks like a distraction, let it go. Only you can be honest with yourself what your precious meditation is. Like it yourself.
6. Accept my humanity.
Accepting my humanity is an important step in giving grace to slow down myself. I recently had a two-week stretch when I had made more mistakes than normal-all with my pride and family results-and it shook me into reality.
I can beat myself about mistakes, but it does not make me special, broken or separated than anyone else.
FuckingVery-Is part of life. This is something we all share.
It is one of the best ways to join people. In the absence of perfection and adaptation, we have an opportunity to join what we mean to be human. We believe that if we open about our living experience, we will be rejected, but often it does not.
Yes, people do justice – and honestly, there is no better way to find out that you need to boot from your inner circle – but there are many people (whom you probably want to keep around) that will be seen and valid through your mistakes. Style helped me to break the cycle of self-shaming and open opportunities to deepen my relationships.
7. Set mutual boundaries.
Sometimes there is a need to say “no”. One of the methods I want to determine in this season of life is saying that not to travel around the holidays. This is uncomfortable. I don’t like it. But when we are honest with others about our boundaries, we are becoming kind. We are saying, I want to be with you when I am able to be * * *. Ad-on, not as extra or obligation. Nobody wants this.
With our closest people, it can be difficult and uncomfortable to determine borders. But when you call everything “yes”, then you give up the truth of your experience. We think it is selfless, but in doing so, we do not allow those who love us to support the way we need to support.
Time is a funny thing. When the speed of life increases, it feels slow. As long as you realize that when you live there to experience it completely, you have to live more life.
Kate is the founder of Wit and Delight. She is currently learning to play tennis and is forever Testing her creative muscle boundaries, Follow it on Instagram on @Witanddelight_.
