In our daily life and social values, “perfection” or “perfection” is often seen as a good. A person who tries to do his work in a very sophistication, hard work and innocent manner is considered a commendable and guarantee. From the school’s most intelligent student to the most capable employee of the office, perfection is considered a success.
But what if it is a bright ladder of success, in fact, a slippery slope that will push a person into a deep moat of mental and psychological diseases? Modern psychological investigation and opinion of global experts presents a second, dark direction, according to which perfection can become a serious psychiatric disease.
It is important to understand that not all types of perfection are harmful. Psychologists make a clear difference between adaptive and unhealthy and unhealthy. In a healthy perfection, man expects the best performance, works hard, and considers failure an opportunity to learn. Conversely, unhealthy perfection takes the form of a madness, where a person himself combines with unrealistic and unexpected standards. There is no place for error, and every small error also gives rise to serious feelings of personal failure and discomfort. This is the place where this good method becomes a disease.
Psychology today, the world’s most popular website on psychology, says that unhealthy perfection is not just a bad habit, but it is the root of many mental illnesses.
An article by “Psychology Today” states that “the dangers of perfection” stated that people see their lives as a report card that should receive “A+” grade in every case. This article states that “perfection” or “perfection” is actually an impossible concept. Those who run after it are suffering from diseases such as severe mental stress, anxiety, depression and passionate disorder (OCD).
According to the article, the biggest war of Kamils is not to achieve success, but to avoid failure. The fear of failure becomes so effective on them that they often do not start working, this condition is called the habit of avoiding “proxy” or in psychology. They are afraid that if they start work and they cannot reach it, it will be a condemnable stain on their person.
In another analysis, which is malnutrition perfection? “I am told that the disease is often based on childhood, parents’ expectations and bitter experiences of inferiority. Such individuals determine their value based on their achievements and performance. They do not believe in unconditional love and they always fear that if they are not right, people will not tell them completely.
Authentic views of global psychologists
When we look at global research on perfection, the two names are the most prominent: Canadian psychologist Dr. Gordon Flat and Dr. Paul Hewitt. Both these researchers have done a large part of their lives to understand the psychology of perfection and prepare their methods of treatment.
Dr. Flat, University of York, a professor of psychology at Canada, and Professor of Clinical Psychology at the University of British Columbia. Hewitt presented a multi -female model of perfection after his decades research. Their joint essay is “perfection: concept, evaluation and treatment for a relationship -related approach” is a milestone in this field. According to him, there are three major types of perfection:
* Self-oriented perfection: In this, the person sets a high and unrealistic standard for himself and is seriously criticized for not receiving them.
* Other-based perfection: In this way, the person combines unrealistic expectations of being perfect with people around them, such as working with family, friend or people around it. When other people do not meet its standards, they suffer from anger, frustration and stress in relationships.
* Socially determined perfection: Dr. According to flat and hewitt, it is the most dangerous and poisonous type of perfection. In this, the person believes that the people around the society, or the people around it expect to be right and they feel intense pressure to meet those expectations. He is always afraid that if he makes a mistake, he will have to face serious criticism, rejection or social misconduct. In his research, Dr. The flat has clearly stated that “socially imposed perfectism has been found directly related to disappointment, depression and even suicides ideas.”
In a podcast interview by the American Psychological Association (APA), Dr. Gordon Flat insisted that “well -known people do not enjoy successfully, because as soon as they achieve a goal, they immediately look forward to the next, and even difficult goals.” They are never satisfied with their success and are in a state of permanent anxiety. ,
Physical and mental effects of perfectionism
When the mind is constantly in the fight to be “right”, its effects are not limited to psychology, but also appear on the body.
* Chronic Mental Stress: Every time the body has the best performance pressure, stress increases the level of hormone such as cortisol, which increases the risk of blood pressure and heart diseases.
* Anxiety and depression: Failure and constant self -political anxiety fear leads to circumstances and when a person does not meet his unrealistic standards, he suffers from serious despair and depression.
* Insomnia: Taliban people often think of their mistakes and failures at night, which affects their sleep badly.
* Social isolation: The unrealistic expectations of others and the habit of eliminating themselves in themselves socially separate them. They also find perfection in relationships that are impossible, and as a result they remain alone.
How is it possible to issue this imprisonment?
If you find symptoms of unhealthy perfection in yourself or in your loved ones, it is important to understand that it is not an incredible disease. Some concrete steps and changes in thinking can be released from its torture:
* Set realistic goals: target set for yourself. Understand that mistakes and flaws are part of life as human.
* Have mercy on yourself (self-compassion): Instead of bending yourself to failure. appreciate your effort.
* Pay attention to the process, not the result: focus your focus on enjoying the work process instead of only the end result.
* Think about the opportunity to learn mistakes: Every mistake is a lesson. Instead of understanding the evidence of your uselessness, think as a means of better in the future.
* Get expert aid: If this quality is affecting your daily life, work and relationships, do not hesitate to contact a psychological or counselor. Techniques such as Cagneto Biological Therapy (CBT) have been extremely effective in controlling the disease.
Of course, the discovery of improvement and refinement of your work is a positive process, but when the “best” discovery “is right” and turns into a passion to swallow a person’s mental peace and happiness, it is a moment of thought. Life is to be incomplete and its beauty is that we can accept our shortcomings and move forward. It is better to be a happy and satisfied “incomplete” human being, who is trying to be right.
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